It’s sad when things end.
Jobs, friendships, holidays.
Health, childhood, pregnancy, our 40’s. Our 60’s. A marriage. A life.
It might be the end of something, or realising that something we hoped for will never be.
Every phase of life brings an end to something, and whether what follows is better or worse, the feelings that can come with change can be similar to grief.
Grief encompasses many emotions. It can feel like you’re going crazy. Some days seem dark, some brighter, there can be emptiness, regret, anger and helplessness. If grief is linked to a death, we are much more tolerant of these feelings. Much more patient with ourselves or others.
But when grief is from an ending, we rarely give ourselves permission to work through it. We don’t take care of ourselves and we might not even admit to ourselves how we really feel. We invalidate our own grief.
But life changes can be hard to come to terms with. And sometimes we need help. Counselling can provide the time and space needed to process feelings of grief following any ending. And help you move forward to the next chapter of life.
In the mean-time, try these tips:
- Be patient with yourself; allow yourself time before you tell yourself you ‘should be over it by now’
- Feel your feelings; whatever they are, they need to be experienced in order to move past them
- Don’t judge yourself; you might think you’re being silly, because no one has died! But the ending was real and your feelings are real.
If you need help and support with this, you can book a counselling session right now, or whenever you’re ready.
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